Tuesday, June 2, 2015

to balance or not to balance

I recently read a devotional that had a great viewpoint on work life balance. Loving it, I promptly copied it down...
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. 

Remember the parable about the bad servant who spent too many hours at the office and the good servant who had a flexible work-from-home telecommuting arrangement so he could spend more time with his kids? No? Jesus didn't tell any parables like that. You would think the Bible has a lot to say about work-life balance. But it's hard to find passages that speak directly to the issue. In fact, the Bible doesn't make a dichotomy between work and life because in the ancient world, work, life and family life were often integrated.

The problem with the work-life "balance" concept is the image of two competing forces: one always prevails over the other, except for those rare moments when "life" and "work" are in perfect tension. However, in Jesus’ own life, and throughout scripture, we don’t see “balance.” What we do see is rhythms of work, rest and celebration, all centered on loving God and others.

Today, many of us seek “work-life balance” because we yearn to find not just balance in our lives, but also health, wholeness and joy. Millions of us are working so much that our lives feel off kilter, our bodies tired, our spirits depleted, our souls drained, our relationships strained. Our challenge is not how to balance “work” and “life” so much as how to live a balanced, fruitful life that comprises healthy, blessed rhythms of work, rest and play.

(published by: The High Calling) 

Monday, May 11, 2015

Let's do lunch

I read a quote today, on Pinterest of course. That Pinterest, it's a wealth of deep thought, baking addictions, decor, and ministry ideas! ((end Pinterest rant))

As I sit here on my day off I read this quote, which isn't gospel or even fully true, yet got me thinking. 

"Jesus didn't run projects, create ministries, or put on events. He ate meals."

My initial reaction was a smile, an ode to our over complicated life and over programmed churches. I promptly tweeted it, like I do with quippy quotes I love. (yes, I know that's not really a word) But then I got to thinking.

Ministry was the life of Jesus and his followers. They sold all their possessions to follow Him, they were about sharing the gospel in every motion they made. I am sure there was never a harvest carnival, or a family Olympics, but does that mean they aren't necessary? 

While every family ministry person gasps at that last line, I assure you that wasn't what I got from this quote. However it got me thinking, have we programmed our families and churches to the point that we are effectively killing a community that an onlooking seeker would want to be part of? 

Yesterday was Sunday, and I saw several people headed to actively worship and serve in various corners of our church. I will often ask people how they are and today's common response, "busy". This experience followed by a week of work and school paired with sports and maybe a midweek Bible study or a small group. 

I just wonder what a person who is seeking, trying to find God, who is watching the motion of today's church sees. Is the question, "Is there room for me at that table?" or is it "Is there a table?" 

This week I will be more intentional about finding ways for those involved in our children's ministry to experience community. I love that Jesus took something we all have to do (eat) and used it to build into something we all desire to do (fellowship). 

May we Take His lead as we continue in life and ministry. 

Thursday, April 9, 2015

Want to go to CM Connect?

If you're looking for two free passes to the CM Connect conference, look no further! 

First, let me say that I am bummed that I can't go! As a Kidmin leader I have been privileged to work with Michael Chanley in the Kidmin arena, and this will be an amazing time of leadership development!

Michael has a heart for those who minister to kids, and the experience to back it. In the discussions leading up to this event he has shared some of the cool things that will be happening. If you are looking for a place to fill your leadership tank, make some amazing ministry friends and take that big exhale as you have a little fun, I would love to give you these two passes.

Check it out! Enter your name below and tell me about your best day in ministry!


I will select a winner tonight at 9pm PST

Tuesday, February 17, 2015

Connecting Church and Home - notes for #cpc15

Here are the basic bullet points for today's session!
and our session selfie too!

Family ministry is not events
  • Families dont need another night to be out
  • A family service does not replace how we equip parents

Four key components of a family ministry
  1. Get Everyone on the same team (ministries and families)
  2. Remove the fear 
  3. Instill the Value
  4. Empower Parents & Leaders   
Teach them WHY

  • Parents need to understand why church and home need to be on the same team
  • Parents need to understand the “why” of what you as a ministry are teaching the kids
  • Parents need to know why it is important to be an active part of their child’s faith journey
    Teach them WHAT

  •    How to pray
  •    How to study the Word
  •    How to serve
  •    How to own their faith in Jesus
   Teach them WHEN

  •    Deuteronomy 6:6-9
  •    Equip them for life’s teachable moments
  •    Teach them how to identify life’s teachable moments
  •    Create checkpoints for children that parents can use as a guide or path
   Teach them HOW

  •    Create a realistic faith path
  •    Provide tools for your families (online or print)
  •    Provide classes for parents
  •    Consider a parent & child class
  •    Don’t leave out the basics
  •    Get families together! Community!!
  •    Offer a get-away to use their skills, let them practice. 
Tuesday, February 10, 2015

A family guide to Lent

I would love to say that I made this, but that wouldn't be accurate. Recently someone forwarded me a family guide to Lent, and I thought I would share. Its very well done!

Get the guide

I hope you enjoy.

Saturday, January 24, 2015

Notes for Beyond Background Checks Breakout

Beyond Background Checks
Heidi M. Hensley
heidimhensley@me.com heidimhensley.com
Developing a safety team
  • Safety team positions
  • Calling on Law Enforcement / Fire / EMS.
    Call on these members of your congregation to serve on Safety committees. (i.e.. Luncheons, Church announcements, bulletins, booths in the lobby, etc)
  • Your volunteers
    • As you establish your volunteer list recruit security/safety personnel
    • this personnel needs to be background checked
  • Just like you would make sure a SS classroom is staffed, have a contact list of Safety team.
    Have LE / Fire personal available in emergency scenarios.
    If your church does not have these personnel reach out to your local departments - if not contact us Volunteers
    Develop a volunteer application, including a background authorization form Background check ALL regular volunteers (and have a wait period) (update yearly if your software doesn’t) Identify background checked & trained workers
  • Enforce the 2’s rule
  • Train your volunteer staff
    • Regular training will make your policies effective
    • Medical training & safety training should all be current and rehearsed
    • “Common sense assumes there is no common sense”
    • Make the plans visible and easy & tools within reach
  • Document, Document, Document (protecting your church, kids, & staff)
    • Any incident or Injury should be documented and signed by a parent
    • Medical release forms should be on hand when parents are not
    • Define incident or injury for your team
      Develop an action plan
STAY CALM! Your the leaders, people will react
to your ability to lead especially during a major incident
  • Natural Disaster - be prepared to assist medical personnel, HAVE A PLAN,
    talk to your Fire Department - Train your staff & review it often
  • Medical Emergency - The key is communication. HAVE A PLAN. You don’t
    need 10 people calling 911. Send a trustworthy person street side to guide
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first responders to the right location. You only need 1 person per entry. KEEP

Safety Incident (Active Shooter or Subject with a gun)
  • Prepare - HAVE A PLAN. (Start with air horns, etc) Educate your staff on lock-down.
  • A gunman will not spend 5 minutes attempting to breach a locked
    empty room
  • Make your church or facility available for emergency agency trainings
  • How to respond to active shooter
    Church Policies
  • Mandated Reporting
    • If it’s questionable, call!
    • Know your state’s reporting laws
    • Develop a system for your staff
    • Food Policies
    • Consider the use of an allergy form or bracelet
    • Train your teachers to respond to surprise snacks
    • Always have an allergen free option on hand
  • Safety Software or Policies
    • Who arrived, who’s there, who left, and who can take them
    • Be willing to have an “alert” for custody issues
    • If you use a system, use it!
    • Workers should be trained to use the same routine for everyone.
    • Follow your own rules and expect the same of your staff!
  • How to write your policies
    • Know your state laws regarding caring for kids
    • Know your problems
    • Know your church’s culture
    • Don’t over complicate the policy & procedure
    • Make it well known
    • State the purpose
    • Brainstorm the worst case scenario
    • Form a plan to prevent the scenario that aligns with the law and
      honors your church’s beliefs and culture
    • Form a draft
    • Rehearse it
    • Present to elders or administrator (if successful)
    • Return to step 3 until step 5 is successful
    • Make sure they don’t conflict
      Resources to remember: Kidcheck.com
      Churchsecurityalliance.com (I thought this was churchsafety.net, disregard that)

      My forms (for example reference)

Notes for Layers of Leadership Breakout

Layers of Leadership 
Heidi M. Hensley

Thanks for coming today!! I was blessed to share, and hope you find these notes useful. I have also attached my mentoring form.
Blessings, Heidi

Mentoring by definition is:
To serve as a trusted counselor or teacher
(what’s missing here?) a sense of being hands on – ministry

My definition .........to serve as a trusted leader with an intentional path you both need to know your destination

This is my theory
If you were to cut a leader in half...(not recommended) I think you would find layers of mentored leadership inside. Just like
trees These layers represent the years of relationship and learning they have gained over the years.

The attitude and way of life qualified the mentor to be imitated by his disciples.... speaking of Jesus

Even though Jesus was divine in His nature while on earth, He lived by faith and dependence on God, which was characterized by prayer.
Simply stated, He didn’t just tell us, he showed us. Phil 3:12

A true one on one mentoring relationship is close. It requires trust, grace, intimacy and transparency.

Be sure to set boundaries and be smart when mentoring, be
aware of your surroundings and be sure your mentor has displayed a life and faith worthy of mimicking and then be that same kind of person.
So how do we build into those around us? 

1. Don’t over complicate it!
  • I honestly believe this is what we as humans do. Somewhere in our arrogance and pride, we assume when things are so simple, there must be more to them We complicate the gospel, when it is designed to be the easiest thing understood. We complicate mentoring by taking it beyond what it really is.
  • Mentoring is like teaching someone to ride a bike.....you guide, occasionally offering support, always offering encouragement, and sometimes correction with the ability to display the intended behavior.
  • What are you doing on a daily basis that can be a teachable moment for someone willing to learn?
  • What are those things in your life that others notice you do well?

2. Know what you’re talking about!

  • Sometimes with the greatest intent, we make it worse. Wanting to help, but not being equipped to do so.
  • Use your resources, learn, and be sure that if you are mentoring or being mentored the mentor has an outward display of a result you wouldn’t mind having.
  • Titus 2:3-5 - training younger generations

3. Let them own their new skill.
  • As our mentees learn, are you giving them freedom and space to own it? Are they being allowed to make mistakes?
  • But most importantly are you letting go?
  • If you never let go of a child’s bike, they will never develop
    the balance skills they need to ride.
  • So much as a finger touch can throw them off. As their body
    learns this new motion....you must release.
  • If you put someone in an action role, but step in and re-do their work, veto small preference design changes, or insist
    that every step is done your way THEY WILL NEVER FIND
  • Set boundaries, but give ownership

4. Age is not a factor.

  • This has been my biggest lesson as a mentor AND mentee I have been mentored by some amazing people, younger than me and older than me
  • I have been blessed to minister to mentees, parents and even volunteer staff that is older and younger.
  • It never ceases to amaze me when someone comes into our program and knows nothing about scripture. They are afraid to jump in, and finding a role where they can use their talents, be mentored and learn all at the same time... this has proven to be a 1 Tim 4:12 moment

sum it all up

  1. Utilize your team
  2. Check progress
  3. Keep your eyes open for talent